Tag: vulnerability

Movies & Tough Walk

Date #312 – Wednesday, June 11, 2014

B: Sometimes I don’t want to admit my limits. Today was one of those days. I just finished an intense physical-therapy session (I was hit by a car) and really wanted to just lie beside A. I know she wanted to see me too. I also had her DVD screeners for the Italian Contemporary Film Festival (ICFF) and so I knew if I made it to her place we would get to watch foreign cinema together.

I was so lethargic that, when I set out to walk to her place, I was moving at 1/4 my standard pace. I called A and I could tell she had no idea how to handle my complaining. I also was barely making sound, so I’m not even sure she knew what I was going through. I was in-pain and maybe should have stayed home. Or not. I’m not sure. I just know that I need to make a decision and stick with it and not complain.

A: After talking to B I got on my bike and biked in the direction he’d be walking. When I found him hobbling (okay, he doesn’t like that word, sorry) along slowly with his purple keep cup I could tell it was one of those days for him. I think the best thing you can do when someone’s experiencing these sorts of feelings is to listen to them and be there for them. So that’s what I tried.

Poutine + Talk about emotions – Date # 178 – Jan 24, 2014

B: I was working late again at CBC prepping for the weekend. A called to say she would make poutine (cheese curds, gravy, and fries) and I asked if they could be sweet potato fries.

We had the poutine together and it was fantastic. After, I remembered this article I read talking about how asking your partner specific questions about their feelings is better than vague questions. So, noticing how A didn’t seem very present this week, I asked her about that. I was nervous saying anything about this because I didn’t want it to sound like an accusation. 

Luckily it opened a big discussion about how stressful the Broken Pencil Deathmatch has been on A and how sharing one’s artistic work and inviting criticism is a really vulnerable place to be. I really enjoyed how much A opened up and how it was an opportunity for me to be supportive. 

A: Yes.