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1st Anniversary Jays Game

Date #337 – Wednesday, July 2, 2014

A: B’s parents got him a ticket to this game. I wasn’t originally supposed to go but when my schedule freed up my pal and I used our seasons pass to get in. We ended up sitting together and it was so much fun. We were in the same place but with new people and different seats and it was a really refreshing and fun game. 

Two weeks prior I had emailed and called to set up a visit from Ace, the mascot, and Jays force for Brian, and I waited the entire game for him to show up. He never did. I can’t lie. I was really upset, though I hid it. I ended up texting the guest services number that they have plastered everywhere and their team came by with a postcard wishing us a happy anniversary. B was really pumped and grateful and, although I tried to hide it, I can’t help but feel as though I came of as an ungrateful child. Oh well. Maybe next year Ace will come for a visit.

B: My Mom had planned to go to the Jays game with my Grandparents for awhile and she gets really good seats and A was supposed to be working and so I said “OK.” Well, it turned out A wasn’t working and this was the 1 year anniversary of when A asked if I would be her boyfriend right before I got off the subway.

I was actually really worried about this day being special. You see so many things in the media about anniversaries and I didn’t have anything like that planned. I think this day was perfect though. It was filled with things and people we love and we got to share our celebration with all of them…including the Blue Jays!

Yeah, I sent them a tweet about our anniversary and then they came and brought A and me a card. I thought it was the tweet but it turns out A wrote them awhile ago! (she’s great) Then the Jays hit a walk-off home-run in the 9th to win it all.

Later we got coffee and had dinner and other people who saw our Instagram posts wished us a happy anniversary too. I think I’m so lucky to both have found someone who I love so much and who inspires me to share that love so much.

Loon Choir & Fireworks on the water

Date #336 – Tuesday, July 1, 2014

A: We played the train game again but this time B’s dad didn’t play. He totally wanted to after we were 20 minutes in so he hopped on to B’s grandma’s turn and it was hilarious. I was dying of laughter. Had to be there, I think, unless the photo above is any indication. It was adorable.We headed to the Oshawa Canada Day festival – and how few photos we have! – to see B’s sister’s incredible band, Loon Choir, play the gazebo stage. It was lovely. Oshawa reminded me a lot of London. That is all.

Later, we went to the harbour and sat on the front of B’s parent’s sailboat to watch the fireworks. It was really sweet. I felt really lucky to share this memory with B. I keep thinking, “It’s crazy that I’m on a boat right now with a sexy man in some suburb of a huge city. How did I get here???” And then I remember that everything happens one step at a time and then all of a sudden you’re knee deep in all the good things.

B: This was a really great day. I’ve realized with holidays that it is important to keep things simple – surround yourself with people you love. I love watching my sister play with Loon Choir. She is and the band are really talented. Plus, we were on a lake and that is awesome.

Watching the fireworks with my parents and Grandparents was pretty great too. It was a triple date and that was kind of funny and nice. Watching the fireworks my Mom kept remarking at all the smoke and how beautiful it was. I kept saying how we were watching massive pollution.

I liked the moment and am really grateful for that, but do wish for a more environmentally friendly way to celebrate our Nation’s birth.

Swinging Life Away – literally!

Date #335 – Tuesday, July 1, 2014

A: Canada Day! We went to the beach/park with B’s family. It was so lovely. Until B and his sis were all, “Hey, you HAVE to go on this spiny park toy. It’s SO fun.” So I did. And it was AWFUL. You don’t even know (and never will because I made B delete the video). I couldn’t stop spinning and my feet didn’t reach the ground, and there was nothing for me to reach for to stop myself, so I freaked out. Literally. I was in a weird headspace from the night before and I know it was completely selfish and unfair of me to act the way I did. I was always really embarrassed which didn’t settle well in my stomach. It was an off day. And I feel so silly for not acting like a grown up, but I guess we all have these days every once in a while. I just… usually try to have them alone in my apartment and not in front of my boyfriend’s entire family. Hah.

B: I wrote about the whole “playground incident” in the last post so I won’t get in to that here. Instead, I will tell you about the awesome things that happened. We walked along this beautiful peer and we laughed and we all spent time together – A and I and most of my family.

My Grandparents have little arguments about a lot of things. They are both opinionated individuals and so they but heads. I think it is hilarious…despite feeling very awkward at times. A got to see this. What was best was that one of these arguments was going on when A and I asked my Grandparents to swing together so I could take a photo of them. My Grandfather pouted while my Grandmother pleaded. I saw A and I in that moment.

Eventually they got on the swings and had a great time. They laughed while I took pictures and forgot about their argument. It gave me hope that if you are willing to just stop and joke around for a moment, you can always come back to the person you love.

Andrea’s secret cry

Date #334 – Monday, June 30, 2014

A: B just snuck this date in the list, didn’t he. I guess I’m forced to talk about. (My OCD-tendency won’t let me delete it due to the long list of dates we have in the queue.)

Well, this is what happens with me: I struggle with the fear of having an alcohol dependency. Alcohol dependency is rampant in my family, and it’s always been a fear of mine. As an incredibly social person, I sometimes find it hard to say no. It was Pride weekend and I soaked in the sun with sangria and craft beer which is, honestly, something that rarely happens these days! 

We all know how we feel after weekends of drinking. Monday is Monday for a reason. When I had a glass of wine at B’s parent’s place, I had another, then another. And then I felt guilty. I don’t have a drinking problem, just the fear that I could have one. I’ve been told that I am in complete control of this.. that I don’t need to have that fear because I can always stop it if I wanted to.. but that’s not how addictions work. I am happy to have the support and courage to talk to my friends and to know that they’re there for me in times like this. B was really great about it all. Feelings of guilt and feelings of fear are all normal and what helps me the most in times of internal peril – should I have another drink, should I not – are listing the things I know to be true. Try it, if you ever find yourself stuck in a hard place that you can’t see to pull yourself out of for even a second to ask for help.

B: I could tell something was bothering A but I didn’t know what. I’ve realize that other people’s moods really effect me and that it is hard or impossible to ignore that. When I asked A she initially said it was nothing. I had a deep feeling this wasn’t the case and I also knew that “nothing” sometimes means “something but I don’t want to talk/deal with it.”

Actually, it started the night before and when A still seemed disturbed the next day I really thought something was up. I told her that if something was going on it is OK to say so and that she doesn’t need to talk about it. I also said if she did want to talk I would listen. I think it is important to let others know you are supporting them.

Eventually A said to me what she said above. I honestly did not know what to say and so I just tried to ask her questions and keep her opening up. It was hard and she pulled back many times, which was hard for me. When the person you love is so upset and troubled and all you want to do is day one thing that pulls the out of the funk, but you can’t, it can be upsetting.

We went to the lake with my whole family and played on the swings and spinning contraptions at the playground. My little sister and I love spinning and getting dizzy and making videos of the fun. I was filming A spinning when she demanded to be stopped. My little Sister helped and A yelled at me for not helping. She then said she wanted to be alone. My family asked what happened and I said that she just felt sick from dizziness. They said I should go help her but I wanted to give A space. I also was upset that she yelled at me and I wanted to stay away so I wouldn’t get angry at her.

On the walk back to the car I did get upset and called her selfish. I immediately regretted saying this. In the car ride home I showed her that I deleted the video. When we got back to my parents she waited back and talked a bit more. I apologized and told her it was hard but that I am trying to support her. Eventually she started feeling better and we hugged and it was good.

I’m happy A confides in me and I’m realizing more and more that you have to be patient with feelings like that. Concern and worry creeps up and all you can do is keep moving forward. I have to believe it will eventually pass with enough forward movement. So far that has proven true.

Game night in Whitby!

Date #333 – Monday, June 30, 2014

A: We took the GO-train in rush hour on a Monday – a first for me! It wasn’t fun. I don’t know how people could commute… daily. 

B’s grandparents were visiting so we stayed up and played board games and hung out. I love nights like these, and I’m so excited to play games with more than one person (my mom and I always had to stick to 2-player games, which aren’t as fun at times!).

B: I didn’t realize that because A didn’t grow up I a suburb of Toronto she missed out on the joy that is the Go Train commute. It actually is kind of interesting and there was a fictional, “The Office” style TV show made about it called Train 48.

Anyways, we rode the train to my parents where my Grandparents from Kansas/Alabama and already arrived. The best part was them looking skeptically at my sleeve tattoo but saying nothing. They are very opinionated and intelligent people, and I really love how they are learning how to properly support someone who lives a very different lifestyle from them, like me.

I know A loves games and my Grandmother loves games and so it was great to play late into the night with them and my Dad. My Dad plays slow and always checks the rules and it is irritating and hilarious. I love that I can share these oddities of my family with A. I am so impressed with how nimble the minds of my Grandparents are despite being over 80. I think games and travel play in to this and I hope to keep playing games and exploring late into my life like them.

p.s. The game above is Ticket to Ride.

World Pride Parade 2014!

Date #332 – Sunday, June 29, 2014

A: It was an epic day of celebration! I love this city and I had all these amazing friends and family to share it with. I hosted a sangria brunch that B couldn’t make it to (what were you doing again??) but we managed to meet at our friend’s place. I’d never seen the parade from this angle, and it was great. This was B’s and my’s first pride together. So stoked for more. I think this might be one of my favourite days of the year!

B: World Pride was a huge week of festivites that ended with the Pride Parade. This is my favourite parade because everyone is always so happy and festive. I was worried this year because standing was still difficult because of my bike accident.

Luckily, A’s friend has a sweet apartment on Yonge St. and we got to watch the Parade from his place. I was so stoked when I got there to find his entire family playing “water-balloon catch” with people in the parade and shooting water guns. 

Everyone is so happy. Many of the police officers joined in and the crowd cheered at them taunting us to throw the balloons. Some politicians, including Mayoral candidate Olivia Chow, were also having a huge blast. 

The parade was ridiculously long but it was super fun. A got pretty tipsy and was so happy and I thought it was adorable. We were at the bar and she was sassing the server and I felt so in love with her. I love when A is happy.

Tense moments during World Pride

Date #331 – Saturday, June 28, 2014

A: My mom came to town and was completely overwhelmed and swept up in the festivities. It was a big day, as B was working and I was following my eccentric mother around as we sipped our covert beers out of coffee mugs. It was a lot of fun, actually, except I was a total dink. B told me I owed him for our cell bill, as it’s in his name, so I wasn’t aware it was due.

I’m OCD about budgets and finance so I got upset when he didn’t tell me right away. He said he was learning how this whole shared cell plan worked, but I was all, “Blah blah you have to tell me blah blah mean things,” and he left. I don’t blame him! It’s hard hanging out with my mom and I when we’ve had a couple drinks. The crappy end to our “date” with my mom (haha) was 100% my fault. I’m still learning when to bring certain things up. I always want to deal with whatever’s on my mind right – this – second!

B: If you’re wondering why I was in a Captain’s uniform it is because I was working the Saturday of Pride promoting Kingston Tourism. I met up with A and her Mom after my shift.

I was really tired (being on my feet after my bike accident has because super exhausting) and I probably should have just went home. A’s Mom can get so excited to see me and I love that. When I met up with them I had no idea they were as drunk as they were and  knowing that now puts things in to perspective.

Everything was chaotic and I really just wanted to relax. Awhile ago I learned not to bring up private matter with your partner in front of family. A kept going on about the bill, which admittedly I should have told her about sooner and not even mentioned. I tried to explain that it was a mistake and I was learning and she took a really stern tone and I just left. 

A is so amazing and understanding that she knew why I needed to leave and needed space. We calmed down and talked and learned and that’s really all you can ask for.

Trans March

Date #330 – Friday, June 27, 2014

A: World Pride was in full swing and, after getting a text from my Aunt who came to the city for the weekend, we headed to the Trans March. I had no idea there were marches and parades every day! We dropped our bike off, picked up swag at the meeting point, which happened to be on my street, and joined in the march at Yonge. 

“We’re going in the march?” B said, as I walked right into the thick of it. We both fight for equal rights and it’s an incredibly important belief we both share. I loved this day. It was a great moment, and we even caught up with my family who was standing alongside watching.

B: I think any movement that is promoting equality is incredible. I want the world to be a place where everyone has an equal opportunity and I know we’re not there yet.

So often trans-people are completely left out of the discussion, segregated, and often violently discriminated against. 

I was so happy when I realized that we could actually be in the march. The whole event was so beautiful and happy and an image of a world I want to help create. Seeing A’s Aunt and Uncle there was a total bonus.

Acting out Lion King

Date #325 – Monday, June 23, 2014

A: My cat, Little Buddy, is the purrrrfect distraction when I’m working. Of course, I roped B into this one and played the Lion King song on my computer while he took a photo. Buddy couldn’t have minded more. He was high as a kite (as high as a kite could be in my apartment)….. 

I got a lot of work done.

B: A describes this scene a lot more organized than I recall…

As I remember, A was talking manically to her cat Buddy and spinning him all over the apartment. I said the it was like she was Rafiki and she looked at me quizzically. I said, “You know, ‘cause you’re a primate and he’s a feline!” 

THEN she put on the Lion King soundtrack and I took this photo. I love how A can act like a total goofball. I think the two of us should goof around more. We often take things so seriously when really we need more goofing.

Short Film work

Date #328 – Wednesday, June 25, 2014

A: I asked the 8-ball if we’d ever finish this short film and the answer was “unlikely.” Well we’ll show you!!!

B: OK, while writing this post I can admit I am behind in working on a draft score of the film. A has trusted me to write all the music for this film and I don’t want to let her down.

Do you ever procrastinate on a project because you feel an intense pressure to do really well?