Here we document our way to 1,000 dates – the joys, challenges, growing pains – and all the in-betweens.
Date #345 – Thursday, July 10, 2014
A: B’s parents are awesome! They sailed to the city! Woah! Of course we went to visit them! I love Toronto Island. It’s such a nice little escape RIGHT in the heart of such a metropolis. I love that you have to take a boat and you can bring your bike and that it feel like you’re so far from all the dirt and spin of urban living that it’s a mini-vacation-feeling-experience. I’m happy to share all that with B… Well… that he brings me along with him on these sorts of things. I wouldn’t have had the chance to do this otherwise.
B: I think it is super adorable and inspiring when my parents go on adventures like this. They do it a lot actually. Growing up my sisters and I would always be included. Now, they finally are going on their own adventures but they still like to include us as much as possible.
I think they were as ecstatic to see as as we were to see them. It was pretty amazing to get this perspective of the city. I love going to the Island, but being on a boat in the water with this massive city towering over you is kind of an incredible feeling. I felt small and vulnerable but also happy to be a part of something so much bigger than me. I was happy to be sharing that with A and my parents.
I hope when we are their age and have been together as long as them we still find ways to do amazing, new, and scary things like my parents do.
Loon Choir & Fireworks on the water
Date #336 – Tuesday, July 1, 2014
A: We played the train game again but this time B’s dad didn’t play. He totally wanted to after we were 20 minutes in so he hopped on to B’s grandma’s turn and it was hilarious. I was dying of laughter. Had to be there, I think, unless the photo above is any indication. It was adorable.We headed to the Oshawa Canada Day festival – and how few photos we have! – to see B’s sister’s incredible band, Loon Choir, play the gazebo stage. It was lovely. Oshawa reminded me a lot of London. That is all.
Later, we went to the harbour and sat on the front of B’s parent’s sailboat to watch the fireworks. It was really sweet. I felt really lucky to share this memory with B. I keep thinking, “It’s crazy that I’m on a boat right now with a sexy man in some suburb of a huge city. How did I get here???” And then I remember that everything happens one step at a time and then all of a sudden you’re knee deep in all the good things.
B: This was a really great day. I’ve realized with holidays that it is important to keep things simple – surround yourself with people you love. I love watching my sister play with Loon Choir. She is and the band are really talented. Plus, we were on a lake and that is awesome.
Watching the fireworks with my parents and Grandparents was pretty great too. It was a triple date and that was kind of funny and nice. Watching the fireworks my Mom kept remarking at all the smoke and how beautiful it was. I kept saying how we were watching massive pollution.
I liked the moment and am really grateful for that, but do wish for a more environmentally friendly way to celebrate our Nation’s birth.
Father’s Day in Whitby
Date #315 – Sunday, June 15, 2014
B: I love my Dad. We used to have a pretty rocky relationship, but now we’re really close. You could say we have always been close, but I fought it hard when I was young. He is very adamant on family time and I admire how much love he has to share.
I’m happy he so willingly and joyfully shares that with A too. I know he was super happy that she came to Whitby to spend the day with us. We all went out on my parents sail boat and then played Ticket to Ride together.
It was a really fun day and at the end my Dad kept going on about how we should do it again. I know A has a different relationship with her Father and I’m happy she can experience this new kind of relationship with my Dad. I read this amazing article she wrote and I learned so much more about her.
I am super grateful to have such a balanced male role-model in my life and I try to tell him that as much as possible.
A: I love B’s dad too. He’s fun and funny and is super creative so it’s neat to see him and B interact. He also has a wicked Irish accent and it makes me nostalgic for those travelling days and inspires me to get out there more. B’s family is very international, actually, and they’re incredibly active and busy people – fitness, music, food… They’re all very cultured and sweet about it.
B’s dad let me sail the boat then crawled to the other side and said he was having a nap. It was just B and I was all, “Aaaaaah!” but it was fine. I didn’t tip the boat!
(B linked to an article that I’ve temporarily put on hold due to some personal roadblocks – but it’ll be back soon!)
Coffee, Recording, Sailing – Date #91 – Oct 14, 2013
A: I got to hang out with the dad and talk shop until I couldn’t wait for one of B’s delicious coffees anymore so I woke him up with my incessant meows. He ended up making coffee three different ways and the middle one picture above was so delicious I wanted to drink it forever. We went sailing and hung around a bit and it was uber relaxing. B’s parents are so sweet and they’ve got such a great and heartwarming dynamic. We talked about Big Sisters Little Sisters and how I’d volunteered with the organization and it’s got me thinking that I’m not doing enough in this world. I need to do something more. I just don’t know what and I’m not sure I’m ready to go back to school.
B: This was a really packed day of fun, family activities. Oddly, no one talked about the Halloween Haunt from Date #90, it was like the evening never happened….
The whole day felt like something out of a very typical American movie and I was half expecting us to all go play a game of tag football outside. Coffee and sailing are pretty awesome though. (and not many families set up recording studios in the basement and record new songs on the fly. I love my family and I love that A got to experience them in their awesomeness).
We loves the Regatta – Date #66 – September 14, 2013
A: It was like a family picnic except we weren’t part of the family. Everyone was really nice and Toronto is set up so that you have to go so far away to sail that no one can watch the race from land.
B: A’s friend’s sailing club was having a regatta and A promised she would go. Originally I was super-stoked to come along, but then I started to become really hesitant. Ultimately the whole thing turned out awesome and I don’t know why I was so hesitant.
Earlier, before the regatta, A helped me get a new wallet and a new debit card (see Date #65). When we got to the regatta we were worried about me paying full price (as I don’t drink and the ticket included an open bar) and whether there would be vegetarian options for me and A. There were vegetarian options but it was a bit of a struggle to sort it all out. This really upset A and it again reminded me how much passion she has and her desire for a more tolerant world. I have always worried about finding a partner who is so steadfast in the ideal of treating everyone equally, I never worry about this with A.
I got real tired and took a nap in the lounge while A and her friends danced outside in the cold with some glow-sticks. When it was time to leave A did a good job of wrangling her friends, even though she was pretty intoxicated too. I was tired and a bit cranky about the whole thing, but tried to contain myself. I think I may have complained a bit too much about this to A on the way home, but the next morning we talked a bit more and she sympathized with how frustrating getting drunk people to leave someplace can be.
Lesson = Regattas are fun but dress warmly.
A: Getting drunk people to leave a place is seriously like bundling cats. Sober or not.